Best Laid Plans of Men and Mice
If the following have not worked for you:
- Positive affirmations till you are blue in the face
- SMART and hairy Goals
- The best intentions
- “The Secret”
- Vision boards
There are very good reasons that these processes have not worked… Nowhere are you told what makes it work, i.e. what’s the difference that makes the difference. We didn’t get a manual telling us step-by-step how to do it, nor were our parents, caregivers, teachers and other authority figures the best role-models, more often than not barely making the grade. Even therapists and other well-meaning assistants have a hard time getting to the bottom of your issues. If you aren’t making progress, they are likely to be working on the surface, on the presenting issues, rather than what is really going on in your head – below the radar, behind the scenes, in the unconscious mind – because it is not always that easy to access, for you or anyone else.
Why? It is unconscious! But that does not mean that your unconscious is inaccessible, or that you should chuck your therapist, necessarily. These things need time to percolate.
Where are you looking?
It reminds me of a little story that sort of illustrates what I am talking about. There was this person seeming to be searching for something so a passer-by asked: “What are you looking for?” The person said: “I lost my Keys.” The passer-by asked: “Where did you lose them?” The person said: “back there in the dark, but I am looking here underneath the light where I can see.”
Dragons in the dungeon
There are ways and means to bring your unconscious thoughts to light. It is only once you have made friends with your dragons in your dungeons that you will be able to really fly. The longer you keep your dragons locked up, the more restless and persistent they become, and the bigger they grow because unwittingly, you are feeding them…..
Programmed to fail
If you have been programmed for failure your whole life, i.e. by implication or otherwise that you are not good enough in some way, it is really, really difficult to overcome those pre-conceived ideas if you do not have the right tools, if you go about it in a non-productive way, or if you administer palliatives and placebos. Working with the symptoms do not change the cause.
Nothing in this universe, that I can think of in this moment, does not have equal amounts of polar opposites; good / bad, high / low, and so on… whatever is ‘hurting’ you is also ‘serving’ you. Whatever you are not happy with in your life is serving some purpose and does something for you at an elemental level, even if it is a bit ‘convoluted’.
Within your biggest gift lies your biggest challenge, and vice versa.
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Yours in awakening the Genius Within
“To dream anything you want to dream, that is the beauty of the human mind. To do anything you want to do, that is the strength of the human will. To trust yourself to test your limits, that is the courage to succeed.” – Bernard Edmonds
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